Before I had my first child I believed falling pregnant was easy.
How wrong I was.
I had heard of many young women fall pregnant during their first sexual encounter. I had heard of many women ‘going off the pill’ shortly before their wedding only to find out they’re pregnant on their wedding day. I had also heard of many women falling pregnant during their first month of trying.
With this as my knowledge base, I thought to myself, why would I be any different. I didn’t realise that so many women struggle to fall pregnant. I had assumed that it would be just as easy for me as all those women I had heard about. After all I was young, fit and healthy. That’s all that’s is needed right?
I quickly realised this was not the case.
So what was the secret to falling pregnant?
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Ironically, I spent all of my early to mid twenties trying not to fall pregnant, then when I was ready in my late twenties, I couldn’t. Hubby and I tried for many months and after each month I thought, ‘this time… this time I will be pregnant‘.
But I wasn’t.
That little stick that held so much of my emotions, came back time after time with a “negative” result. That little dash of negativity completely dashing my hopes every time.
So, I did some research and found that tracking ones cycle seemed to help so many women. I wanted to see if we were missing our fertile window each month.
I have always struggled with my cycle being irregular. My mum taught me to track my cycle when I was in my teens, and I did up until my twenties. But then I went on the Implanon and didn’t have a period for two years. Consequently I fell out of the habit and didn’t pick it up again.
I have girlfriends who are so regular know that they are almost always due on a Sunday and will definitely have their first sign of bleeding first thing Monday. Oh, how I wish I was this in tune with my body.
I initially used the traditional method my mother taught me sixteen years earlier – put the letter P or a red dot 28 days after your first bleed.
But I thought to myself, in this technological day and age, there has to be a much more intuitive way to do this.
The Ovulation Calendar is one such technology.
The Ovulation Calendar, found at ovulationcalendar.com. helps couples all over the world conceive faster by accurately predicting their most fertile days. The website lets you plug in all the relevant information such as day of your last period, your predicted cycle length and luteal phase (meaning…). It then presents you with a calendar outlining your period prediction, fertile window, your ovulation day and your increased chance of having a boy or a girl!
Ovulation Calendar provides you with a graph of your most fertile days and cycle timeline. It tells you when your next period is due and you can opt into receiving a notification closer to the day. Certainly makes life a little easier.
You can engage in the website as much or as a little as you wish. You can add your weight, age, body temperature, exercise habits, diet intake, and how you’re feeling on any given day. You also receive daily tips and cycle insights. One of my insights was that towards the end of my period, I should start feeling a boost in energy, mood and optimism, as my estrogen levels will be increasing at this time. Who knew?
The best part of this website is that it is so intuitive. If you’re not the most computer savvy person, this technology gives you prompts when needed so you can add the relevant information you need to determine your fertile days.
I quickly learnt that falling pregnant was not just about being fit and healthy, although this plays a big part, but it was also about timing. The website helped me determine at what days in my cycle I was most fertile.
Turns out, we had been overshooting our fertility window by about a day. No wonder each month my hopes were continually dashed.
So after five months of ‘trying’ to fall pregnant, and two months of tracking my cycle and understanding more about my cycle and fertility, we finally saw the little plus sign we had been waiting for. A positive result!
While I realise that seven months of trying really isn’t very long – many people I know have been trying for years, I still felt disappointment month after month. And if I’m being honest, it was beginning to take it’s toll. I can’t imagine what it must be like for those trying for much longer.
I wish that I had found this technology earlier in my pregnancy journey if only for the simple reason of understanding more about my own body and how my lifestyle and well being affects my fertility. Now that I understand more about my body, I fell pregnant the first month of trying with my second child. Now I am one of those women you hear about, but this time it’s no secret.
Did you track your cycle to fall pregnant?
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