My most defining moment as a mother

Soon my son will be a one year old.

And it got me reflecting about my year as a mother. My ups and down’s, my proud mummy moments, my not so proud mummy moments. Most of them I have shared on my blog. But it occurred to me I never shared one of my most defining moments as a mother. One that I am proud to say taught me to trust my instincts and stand up for what I believe in, even if it means having a difficult conversation with a stranger in public. But I’m sure you will agree, I handled it well.

Anyway, here it is… my most defining moment as a mother!

This is me by the way

This is me by the way (the non banshee-version)

I was at the ATM in town. My little one was snug as a bug in his pram. He was wearing a bear beanie (beanie with ears) and a cardy knitted by nanny.

He was cute.

Sooo cute!!

I had him facing away from me while I was withdrawing money, not sure why really, perhaps because I sat my wallet on top of my pram to keep it close – you know how you keep it close in case someone sneaks up behind you – well I was doing that.

Anyway here I am minding my own business when I hear a click of a camera shutter. I turn around and find a woman pointing her iphone at my son.

I look at her.

She looks at me.

She smiles.

I don’t smile.

I think to myself…. “Oh no you didn’t”!!!

“Did you just take a photo of my son?” I ask.

“Yeah, he’s just so cute,” she laughs.

Now as far as I am concerned, she has just broken the cardinal sin of public privacy (a juxtaposition if I ever heard one!).

To say I was p!ssed off was an understatement. I was livid..

L.I.V.I.D. I tell you.

Anyone that knows me, knows that I do not tolerate any breach of privacy.

So I unleashed banshee Lauren. I was so damn wild!

“Oh no,” I said. “You don’t just take a photo of another person’s child without their permission.”

I was seeing red and wanted slap her around the face with a soiled nappy.

See this picture….

from wikipedia

this is what I wanted to do!

Instead I took a deep breath and spoke slowly.

“I don’t know you – you don’t know me. I don’t know what you’re going to do with that photo. I don’t know where you’re going to post it. You need to delete it now!”

I think she peed herself.

I am not sure, but the look on her face told me something was happening in the downstairs department.

I don’t understand. How can people be so…. so docile?

How can they not know the etiquette of taking photos of other people’s babies – of strangers babies. You.just.don’!

Either this woman is as dumb as a sack of hammers, or there is something seriously wrong with the world if people think this is okay.

Anyway, she fiddled with her phone and said she deleted it. I wish in retrospect I asked to see her delete it.

How do I know that she didn’t Snap Chat it to half a dozen of her friends. Or post it on Instagram or Facebook for a 1000 of her friends to see?

The truth is, I don’t.

Unfortunately the damage was already done.

I just have to hope that no one else finds my baby as cute as she does.

Doubt it though, he’s damn pretty cute.

What is your most defining moment as a mother? Please share, I’d love to hear it!!

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About Lauren Jackman (161 Articles)
Lauren Jackman is the author of Canberra Mummy. A self-confessed perfectionist, Lauren writes about the truth about pregnancy and parenting for perfectionist mummies. Lauren is a mum, wife, author, runner and a not a bad cook

6 Comments on My most defining moment as a mother

  1. I realise on one hand we should be flattered people think our children are cute, but I agree with you that there should be etiquette observed. I wrote a similar post about people touching and holding my children without asking. I think it’s common sense to ask… But then common sense isn’t really that common, is it?

    • Nadia, please post your article in the comments. I’d love to read it 🙂 Yes, I guess I am flattered yet having a cute baby makes people want to invade your privacy even more!

  2. Hahahaha “Banshee Lauren”! I can just see it. But you have an incredible point. In this technological age where people are abusing children over the internet you need to be super aware of who is photographing your child and how it is being used. I would have been like the army sarge! You would have heard me losing my shit in China 🙂

    • That’s right, and there is the whole law debate around being in public there’s the expectation you would be photographed, which is fine for adults, but not for children.

  3. This happens to my children very regularly. Once we were on a boat trip and a woman sat her daughter next to us and then started taking photos of us all. I was blissfully unaware until my husband jokingly told me to smile! I’m regretfully not brave enough to say anything and mostly think it’s innocent. Inappropriate of course but I like to think its not sinister! Good on you for taking a stand, I hope the ‘photographer’ thinks twice next time!

    • Oh my gosh Claire – I would have hit the roof! I wish I had that mindset too, but I fear that my line of work may have skewed my perspective a little. You must have especially beautiful children if you get it regularly (hehe!!)

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