Dear My Pregnant Self
I know you’re worried, and anxious and nervous but you don’t need to be.
That piece of soft cheese you accidentally ate last week, isn’t going to harm your baby.
Remember that bottle of sav blanc you drank before you knew you were pregnant, it won’t harm your baby either!!
Those repetitive movements you felt last night isn’t your baby in distress, they’re your baby hiccuping.
And don’t worry about not performing your job well at work – morning sickness is a sign of a healthy pregnancy so you’re performing your most important job just perfectly!
Don’t be too hard on yourself for not exercising as much as you used to. And don’t chastise yourself for that cake you ate last night.
Don’t worry about finding the prefect pram, the perfect cot or the perfect car seat. You will know it when you see it.
And you certainly don’t need a bigger car, a bigger home, or a designer nursery. You don’t need everything new and you don’t need everything now.
Don’t be embarrassed about vomiting in the toilets at work, on the tarmac at the airport and at that fancy pants café. You’re not the first to have done it, and you won’t be the last.
And don’t panic about the labour. It will be hard and it will be painful but there are ways you can feel in control and you will get through it.
But hunny, you really need to stress less. Your sleepless nights are not just because you’re uncomfortable or the baby is kicking.
Your forgetfulness is not because of baby brain, and I know you’re not reading endless pregnancy materials because they’re useful.
You are worrying! But you don’t need to – what you need to do is stop!
Relax a little.
Go get a massage, a manni or a peddi. Go get your hair done, have a coffee with a friend and relax by the pool.
Go do some baking. Or go do some gardening.
Spend more time relaxing in the bath. More time with your partner. And much, much more time sitting and reading and listening to the rain.
Everything will turn out fine.