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How I changed my life and discovered the real me

I have had the privilege and honour of watching my friend undertake a metamorphosis over the last 6-12 months. I have always admired Morgan as a brilliant mother and wife, never did I realise what she was battling within herself.

This is her story of how she discovered herself and became a fitter and healthier mother along the way.

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Wellbeing…. what is it and why do we need it?

I guess before I tackle that old chestnut I should explain a bit about me, where I have come from and where I am heading.

I was always the bigger girl in school.

My weight has yo-yoed all my life  and I have struggled with depression at different times.

In my first year out of high school (I am 28 now), I was the lightest I had ever been – but also the unhealthiest.

I always thought happiness would flow when I became thin.

What I did not know then, that I do now, is happiness comes from a different place.

If you change your mind, you will change the world.

My husband and I are about to celebrate our fourth wedding anniversary but more importantly our tenth year together. He has seen many of my highs and lows and has supported me the best he could through all of them. Sometimes, however, the voices in our own head gets too loud.

You know the voice….. the self-doubt.

I hit rock bottom soon after our amazingly, beautiful little girl was born. I have always prided myself on looking after my family through cleaning, gardening, cooking. But in the final stages of pregnancy, when I could not do the cleaning and could not do the gardening, I relied solely on my baking to support my family.

I spiralled out of control.

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This was no more evident than when my forty-eight hour labour resulted in an emergency c-section and we quickly moved our daughter on to formula following a number of problems breastfeeding. I see now that my lack of energy and stamina largely led to these life changing events for me and my baby.

Once again I turned to baking – how else was I going to care for my family? Unsurprisingly, I became more and more uncomfortable with my body.

I hid at home.

I found reasons not to visit friends.

I found reasons not to leave the house.

Clothes didn’t fit. My skin was terrible. I looked unhappy all of the time and most importantly, I didn’t ask for help.

Then a life changing event occurred.

A very close friend introduced me to a nutritional cleansing program. I initially thought her Facebook account had been hacked so I didn’t take her seriously at all.

Such an idiot – I kick myself every day for this. She is an amazingly supportive friend and I would trust her with my life, so why did I not trust her with something as important as my health?

I continued hating my body and parts of myself for another couple of months before I was reintroduced to the program by a family member.

I was scared.

But my husband and I were ready to change our lifestyle and we thought this might kick us into gear.

We asked ourselves – “if not now, when?”

That’s one lesson I have learnt throughout this whole process – use your fear to wake you up! Feel the fear and understand why it is there then do it anyway. My most rewarding experiences in life have come from situations which have fear at their core.

We were not looking for another fad, we had already tried all of those. We really wanted to embed healthy habits into our lifestyle to start our little girl on a healthy path and stop the vicious and negative body image cycle early.

WOW! We ended up with so much more than we had ever bargained for!

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Now, I realise most of you will know this… but “wellbeing” is so much more than just measuring yourself up against the beautiful, thin looking woman at the coffee shop or the muscly guy at the gym.

Wellbeing builds from the inside out, I really needed to delve into my mind and combat my demons. From the inside out.

The program gave me a vision and goals for our family’s future.

We were combating the bulge together, building strong minds and our core values in the process.

This was really highlighted when our little girl spent two weeks in hospital and had three surgeries just after her first birthday. We continued to stick to the program word-for-word and supported each other each day. We had our breaking points but an amazing thing happens when you fuel your body with the right fuel – you are mentally stronger too.

We were not putting diesel in an unleaded car anymore. We had started putting vortex unleaded into an unleaded car and we were reaping the benefits from it. Yes the weight loss has been incredible (26kgs for me and 44kgs for my husband) and it is the main reason I am asked about the program so much, however, I have clearer skin, toned muscles, greater clarity of mind, better sleeping habits and a drive for success that I did not have before.

I have spent all my time up until this point “coasting through life” doing what I thought I was “supposed” to do. Be a good wife. Be a good mother. Be a good worker. I did not see the benefit in really caring for myself and making sure that at the end of the day I was truly happy with the decisions I had made and how I was living my life.

I started challenging life.

I started challenging the mainstream.

Do not get me wrong, I love almost everything about my life, my husband, my daughter, the life we have built together. But it was my perception of self-worth and self-image that I fought with daily. At any given moment, you have the power to say, “this is not how the story is going to end!”

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Six months on and I have changed my weight loss goals three times as each time I thought the goal I had set was sooo unachievable. How much I still underestimate myself!

I am told regularly that I have a glow, and no, I am not pregnant! In fact, I am 18 kg’s below the weight I was when I fell pregnant! But that’s only a secondary thing to what’s most important.

What’s most important is that I motivate many friends and family members to improve their life too. I support them everyday to continue on their new found path. I am told so many times that I sound like a life coach so much so that I am now starting to believe it myself – I am completing a qualification in life coaching!

I have apologised to my husband (previously a body builder) for baking for him all the time and contributing to his unhealthy weight and unhappiness. I still cook for my family, but our choices are different now.

My sleep has improved tenfold. It was rarely our daughter keeping me up at night, instead it was always the negative thoughts running a million miles an hour around in my mind.

I have realised that I can bust the walls that confine me right down to the ground. After all, I was the one that put them there in the first place!

Individual wellbeing is about being of healthy mind and body, and maintaining healthy relationships with friends and family. It is also about trying to reach our full potential in all aspects of our lives.

Today I am on track to achieve a strong and healthy sense of wellbeing not only for myself, but for my entire family – they are right here beside me. Once upon a time I felt guilty for putting myself first. But when my baby came along, I had to stop and think about what it would mean if I didn’t start. Our lives would be so different if they continued the way they were.

Remember, the best project you will ever work on is you! So what’s holding you back?

Be happy, be bright, be you.

Morgan xx

Does any part of this story resonate with you? The self-doubt? The unhappiness you feel about your self-worth and self-image? Well, do something about it!!!

Morgan is holding an event where she will talk in depth about her journey of self-discovery. If you think you won’t attend and change your life…. then ask yourself one question, “If not now…. when?”

For more information or to join Morgan on her journey of health and wellness, contact her at mjecreations@gmail.com

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Canberra Mummy is not affiliated with this wellbeing program, rather Canberra Mummy promotes people’s courage and dedicating to changing their lives for the better.

About Lauren Jackman (159 Articles)
Lauren Jackman is the author of Canberra Mummy. A self-confessed perfectionist, Lauren writes about the truth about pregnancy and parenting for perfectionist mummies. Lauren is a mum, wife, author, runner and a not a bad cook

13 Comments on How I changed my life and discovered the real me

  1. Well done and congratulations. You are so right healthy and well being is not being skinny.
    Julie

    • Thanks so much Julie. This way of thinking is a complete contradiction to how I was raised and how the media portrays ‘healthy’.

      I really appreciate you taking the time to read my story and I hope you got something out of it.

  2. Sounds like a really wonderful program for you and your family! Glad it helped you and hubby to turn your lives around and be healthier.

    Ai @ Sakura Haruka

    • Thanks so much for you comment Ai and taking the time to read our story.

      The program has completely changed our life, which I am sure you got from reading.

      It was lovely last weekend after taking our little girl to a toddler social and exercise class we just popped her in the pram and went for a 7km walk. It was the moment I realised how much time I had been wasting stuck inside myself. Get outdoors, enjoy life!

  3. What a lovely and inspirational story. Well done!

    • Thanks so much for taking the time to read it Sally.

      While it was great for me to write this story with the hope to inspire others, when I started hearing from members of my team last night who I mentor through their journey towards health and wellness when the post was published it really became apparent that they are the ones that inspire me!

      Thanks again.

  4. Well done on making that leap and doing what is best for you and your family. Keep it up!

  5. Hi Malinda,

    Thanks for taking the time to read the post.

    It was such a huge leap to take, however looking back now I wish we had done it sooner. While as parents we say lead by example it is very rare that we actually do this in practice. I think having this sort of record of our journey will really impress upon our daughter that we worked so very hard to be parents she could truly be proud of.

    Thanks again.

  6. I’m so glad that you found something that worked for you. 26kg’s is absolutely amazing.

    • Thanks so much Jess. It was ridiculously easy and I didn’t incorporate exercise in until my last month. When they say abs are made in the kitchen it really is true. 80% nutrition and 20% exercise. That is a ratio that works for me!!

      I really appreciate everyone who has taken the time to read a little snippet of my story!

  7. It is so great to hear of experiences like this and its life changing effects. I totally agree that being healthy and happy doesn’t mean being skinny, it’s something I’m trying to work on with my new ‘mummy’ body and as someone who was always skinny pre-kids.

    • Hi Eva,

      Thanks so much for taking the time to read my post.

      It is so difficult and it is something that we really smash ourselves over! I found it really difficult that I was a new mum and I was so in love with my daughter however I just felt like I was missing something. Such a horrible feeling and I am glad it is over now. But we really do have to give ourselves some time to recover and enjoy life. This program just made it so easy for me and I can’t believe how much it has changed me inside and out for the better!!

      And by no means am I skinny, but I am healthy, happy, energetic and I have great skin to boot! I will take that as a win!

      Thanks again for taking the time out of your day to read my story.

  8. You look amazing Morgan. Thanks for sharing s personal story not only about weight loss but about a healthy mind and soul …

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